When Love sees one of its own in agony, it mobilizes a search party that will not rest until it has found and embraced the one who went missing.
It sets off on a rescue mission that will endure any hardship that comes its way, burning with the fire of a heart that bleeds for the one who went missing.
The one who knows true love cannot stand idly in the face of pain, even when pain tries its best to scare love away.
There was a time in my life when I wished that the love embracing me would leave me to myself, figuring that the care and concern of those who loved me was robbing me of my freedom to follow a path of my own choosing.
At rage with love, what consumed me was an inexplicable desire to self-destruct, to claim my freedom by throwing myself head first into the flames.
At that time in my life, I was the one in need of rescue, and the one who would do anything to rescue me was my father.
He did not judge me, and he would not stay away no matter how hard I tried to scare him off.
In the end, that Embracing Love melted down the hard crust surrounding my heart and I found I was free to love again.
Since that day, I have been indebted to my father, for in that moment, the seeds of Embracing Love were sown in my heart.
True love is not about deserving, and it is not about keeping scores. It is a source of living water that will pour itself out for the one who is bleeding, until he bleeds no more.
The body knows when one of its limbs is in pain. Such is the nature of Embracing Love, a love that will not be discouraged but will grow stronger with every heartache.
Dad, there was a time when you would have gone to the other end of the world and abducted me just to bring me home. I could not have imagined then that there would come a day when our roles would be reversed. Regardless of the outcome I will never regret leaving all behind to shower you with the fruit of what you once helped sow: Embracing Love that endures for eternity.
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Follow-up comment rss or Leave a TrackbackThis is beautiful, Miriam. Your love for your dad and Josef’s and Esther’s love for him will break those cords that bind him.
Absolutely beautiful, Miriam. What an embracing unity you and your parents show in the last photo. Keep on loving him with Esther and Joseph. Love and perseverance will win out in the end. The bonds will be broken and your dad will come home. (((Hugs))) Jo - North Africa
This is so beautifully written Miriam! I believe openly stating the strength of your love for your dad nourishes your strength further. So many of us are willing the Universe to bring unity and peace to your family!
Miriam,
There can’t be anything stronger than your Embracing love. This is something we can believe in. This kind of love wins any battle.
And as I see it; The worldwide connections are already in place so nothing that happens will get lost in the unknown sea and there are already hands reaching out to help with solid informations and possibilities.
Your letter of Embracing love describes so beautifully what love is really about. Thank you for this lesson no 1 in “What Love is all about”.
I wish you all strength!
Reading this post I started thinking about why you guys are sharing, what must be, the most disturbing events ever of your life with us? And why are we commenting?
I’m guessing the three of you had a pretty intense discussion about wurther to make this whole process of your dad’s surd behaviour public via your blog, or not. You didn’t have to but you chose to. Why? I’m guessing because that’s how he has lived his life so far and those are the ways he taught you to live your lives. I can only wish I’d had a dad who would’ve done that for me. I’d have given anything for that kind of a father! But… you have one and him having lived a transparent life has taught you to live transparently, thus inviting the rest of us to take part and pitch in where we can.
Interestingly enough that is a call to open up for us as well. Bringing things out into the open means openly discussing that which hurts, is shameful or else difficult to expose.
I can’t give you advice on how to bring your father back Esther but I can share with you what I’ve observed through your reporting and my thoughts about it.
So… here we have a man of great integrity and a character of accountability second to none. He’s accustomed to making those tough decisions, putting everything he has on the line to stay true to his beliefs. And he’ll sacrifice his own wellbeing and safety, go through fire for his loved ones and those in need to get the job done.
The same man - this bastion of character and transparency - suddenly turns up and wants to keep it a secret that he’s getting married. Out of character.
Will allow others to control him while not seeming to have a will of his own. Out of character.
Will report his own children to the police and then in the next moment physically abuse them just so he can be left alone. Out of character.
The next moment have dinner them not commenting the great trauma that just took place. Out of character.
Will physically within a few weeks have changed his looks, appearence and personal expression to such a degree that you can’t believe it’s the same person. Out of character.
In fact it seems it’s not the same character at all and the only explanation I can think of would be mental illness. He’s having some kind of meltdown in his mind and needs professional attention. I’m not a psychiatrist and won’t even attempt to guess what the diagnosis might be.
However what makes it complicated it is that it all seems to have started with some kind of involvement with Joy and that does give reason for caution - as we’ve seen before she is not of a transparent breed. If she found him in a traumatised state (or even caused that traumatisation) he way have surrendered his will to her. He might have been having a psychosis where any decision he had to make was a mile high mountain and surrendered to someone who could make those decisions for him. In that case she’s taken advantage of him and is using him for her own purposes - which I feel might be very dubious given her track record of a lot of hot air and a cold footprint. Esther you wrote that:
“he [my dad] used to tell me that you need so much light inside to handle darkness, and not all of us were made to go into the darkest places to bring in light…”
Well maybe he was at a place in life where he, for once, didn’t have enough light inside to go to those dark places.
Somehow - to get him back to Niger or Norway - you need to replace that authority she has. I don’t think you can reason with him in his current state of mind, but you need to relieve Joy of her command and take charge of the decision making in dad’s life. Don’t give him freedom of choice (and I’m only guessing now - I have no expertise in this area) to decide what he thinks is right or wrong. I don’t think he knows any longer. Tell him what’s going to happen. Let him know that you’re taking charge of him until he’s OK again and make sure Joy (by reason or force) knows that there can’t be two captains on his ship. I’m certain you could get a psychiatrist in Taipei to give a statement that your father isn’t accountable and get professional support to have him sent back home with you where he can recieve treatment.
The main message is this. Don’t treat him as if he knows what he’s doing and can be reasoned into doing the right thing. He can’t. You’re gonna have to do it for him with or without Joy’s help.
Miriam…you come from a very special and strong family. This was beautifully written and builds on what I wrote yesterday. You will never leave your father…nor desert him while he is being tormented by this situation. I don’t think it will be long before the powers holding him… release him to those who give him TRUE love and the RESPECT he deserves.
Does he even remember these “episodes” when they are past? It definitely sounds like some kind of break with reality. My prayers continue for your family.
Leah wrote: Does he even remember these episodes……..
I was wondering about this myself.
When you had the anniversary dinner, did he at all acknowledge hurting you earlier?
Wish you all the stength to carry this through.
I am hoping you have all professional help gathered as well.
G
Leah wrote: Does he even remember these episodes……..
I was wondering about this myself.
When you had the anniversary dinner, did he at all acknowledge hurting you earlier?
Wish you all the stength to carry this through.
I am hoping you have all professional help gathered as well.
G
Miriam, this is beautiful. So glad your family has such strong love and faith as to stand by each other in these scary times. Hang in there. Blessings!
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